There is a Jamaican saying, "show me your company and I will tell you who you are". Our friends are a reflection of us, that is because we choose to be around and tend to get along with people who are similar to us in personality and mindset. Have you really sat and evaluated the people in your life that you call friends, have you really thought about how you go selecting your friends, what personality they must have, what are they bringing to your life? No one enters our lives without leaving an impression on us, that being the case we ought to become very selective of the people who we allow into our lives.
As children we formed friendships with the girl or the boy who sat next to us in class or shared their candy or banana chips with us. The older we become and the more we grow into self our friendship criteria should reflect that change. Therefore if you are carrying with you friends who do not aid in your growth, guess what, they got to go. That does not mean that you are going to suddenly stop talking to them, but it does mean that you begin limiting contact with that or those people because they are not adding value to your life.
What do I look for when I decide to choose someone to be my friend.
Someone who 1.Fuels my positive energy - this is so very important to me, I am the type of person who feeds from peoples energy therefore someone who is negative can easily depress me. That does not mean that you should not be there for your friends whenever they are going through a hard time, its always good to be the friend who listens.
Someone who 2.Renews my spirit. Its is so good to have that person who I can go to whenever I'm feeling down and sad. We all have those moments it is good to have that friend who always knows what to say, when to say it, how to say it and lightens the mood.
Someone who is 3. Intelligent and gives intelligent advise. Need I say more?
Someone who is 4. Energetic and energizes me. I tend to pick friends who are very lively in personality. I enjoy being around happy people. Not everybody is happy, unhappy people seek to make disciples of themselves.
Someone who is a 5. No nonsense person. I find that my friends who are energetic are also very blunt when it comes to knocking sense into my head. As you begin growing into self you find that you have a very low tolerance for foolishness. Friends who are no nonsense will not bring nonsense to you and will allow you to see when you are bringing nonsense to them.
Someone who 6. Diligently seeks spiritual guidance. I enjoy being in the company of people who are spiritually plugged in, they know how to guide you to God, they have the right scripture at their finger tips, they give God centered advise.
Are your friends fueling your positive energy, renewing your spirit, intelligent and gives such advise, no nonsense people who are diligently seeking spiritual guidance? If not then you need to thoroughly evaluate your friends and friendships. Are you that type of friend? If not then you need to dedicate time to changing those habits that are preventing you and your friends from growing.
You are magnificent.
One Love
Danni
