There was a time in my life when I thought that for me to experience true happiness, I had to be in a relationship then that person would make me happy. Such a sad thought don't you think. I remember when I just started dating my boyfriend I would never refer to him by name to my girlfriends, I always referred to him as "my boyfriend". A true obsession. But then I got a reality check, being in a relationship does not make someone happy, instead you are to take your happiness with you into the relationship to enhance it.
If you are single, I say to you embrace it. I'm sure being married and having children is a gift from God, however, if you do not have that special someone in your life, do not feel as if you are lacking. Take your time being single as a time to grow into character, to truly understand what you love, enjoy "me" time, and spend quality time with friends.
People are attracted to personality and self confidence. Interestingly enough these are attributes that can easily be seen, without you even uttering a word. Work on the inside, make yourself happy. What do you truly love or enjoy, do you love going out to dinner? Then go out, drag one of your friends along with you, mix, mingle, embrace your singleness. Take a drive out to the country, explore things you have never done before. There are many things that require money to do them, and there are things that are inexpensive and even free. If you happen to be in NYC go hang out in Union Square in the summer time or Central Park. One of the things I used to do was I would go out to dinner with a friend of mine every Thursday night or go to the Promenade downtown Brooklyn (love it) something else that I really enjoy doing is sitting in Barnes and Nobles and reading.
Do not focus on the fact that you are single. Listen I get it all the time "so where is the ring?" Well don't get upset, most people do not mean anything by it. Give them a generic answer like "God knows best" and keep it moving. Take the time to improve on your talents or create new ones. My plan for this winter is to teach myself the violin (we'll see about that). So as this Christmas comes around I will be learning more about Danielle, challenging myself to take on new tasks, and loving myself a lot more. Well until we chat, I will be either shopping, window shopping or trying out new makeup brands. Or, WRITING A PAPER.....
One Love
Danni
